A woman from New Jersey wrote
I'm a 61 year old retired
school teacher. For 38 years I tried to instill in students the
difference between right and wrong. I'm also a mother. My youngest
boy, age 21, has been incarcerated almost six months now. I didn't
even SEE a drug problem my boy was having. I carried guilt around
for a long time. I still cry, but not nearly as much as I had
been doing. I am in therapy don't
think therapy has helped as much as your book. I read it over
and over as often as I need. Thank you Mr. Khan for possibly
saving my sanity. I plan on ordering copies to give to those
I love for Christmas presents this year. You have given me back
my "sleep" at night.
Reginald Thomas Aubry wrote:
Yours is proof that if
you have something of quality, the more you give away, the more
we'll want to buy.
I believe I've read your
entire web site. You would think that after that I would have
said - 'Well, I've seen everything he has
I'm done guess
clever old me won't have to buy the book now.
I was more than happy to
buy the book, and I'm not disappointed in the least that I did.
It's not that you were holding out on us and the additional essays
in the book are the best - it's just that there are MORE of those
wonderful nuggets of useful and motivating writing.
I am a 25-year veteran
of the technical writing industry, so I tend to be VERY hard
when reviewing non-fiction writing. I can say without reserve
that I truly appreciate what you've done. Self-Help Stuff That
Works does. Period.
Dave Bourfford, publisher of the Positive
News Network, had this to say to his readers:
I get a ton of mail with people wanting
me to promote their products and services to you, my loyal readers,
and 99.9% of it I turn away but this book is an exception.
I found this book so enlightening and helpful
that I just had to share it with you. The author Adam Khan has
compiled a virtual encyclopedia of practical ideas that you can
apply to make your life better. These ideas are presented in
bite-size, easily digestible chunks.
Each chapter is independent from the others
and can be read in any order. The broad spectrum of feelings
and situations covered provide you with solutions and suggestions
that you can apply to improve your situation or your attitude
I hope you find it as helpful as I have.
Simon Schatz, Director of Administration,
Thank you for the breath of sanity and
honesty provided in your book.
Chris Hill, Editorial Director of Rodale Health
I've been a fan of Adam Khan's columns
for over seven years. Adam is one of those rare writers who takes
a simple, profound idea and makes it LIVE for you ... and he
entertains you in the process.
Bill Ellison, Chairman and
Founder of TVI, Inc. (Value Village/Savers Stores U.S., Canada
I've read Self-Help Stuff That Works six
times so far, and plan on MORE!!!
Zev Saftlas, author of Motivation
That Works: How to Get Motivated and Stay Motivated:
This book is a great book.
There is a lot of hype in the self-help industry and this book
cuts through all of that to provide you with stuff that really
works. Adam is results driven. Adam is looking for what works.
I love books like this. I don't need any more theories. I want
practical application. This book shows you many ways to apply
self-help stuff that really works into your own life. Read it
and apply it today!
Donna J. Evans, owner of a hair salon:
SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE. I have read many
self-help books and not one gets to the point the way 'Self-Help
Stuff That Works' does. It is so simple and easy to read, yet
very effective and well written. For instance, I have gone through
many time management books, and have felt like throwing them
against a wall before I could finish all the do's and don't,
etc. In just two pages in the chapter, 'Time Management Made
Simple', Adam has managed to explained it very simply and so
effectively, and it does WORK! I have taken three or four chapters
and work on that stuff. As things change in my life, I use valuable
information from other chapters in the book and put those suggestions
to work, and they do WORK! What I really love about this book
is that it's fast, easy to understand and gets right to the point,
and it WORKS!!!
Jeanne Marie Evans, commodity trader and RN:
Adam's book really helps you to have a
I place a high value on Adam's new book. It really does add quality
to my days. If I am feeling down or discouraged I pick up his
book and in just a couple of pages I'm feeling better. Adam writes
in such a way that it has a tendency to stay with you through
the day. Perhaps this is because the information is so concise.
I find it very easy to reflect back on what I've read... It's
not just a quick fix. It does add value to your life. Adam is
easy to read. It's enjoyable because he blends humor with the
wisdom of the ages. I highly recommend this book, especially
to those who like self-help books. I think that it will be of
value for many years to come.
Varghese P. Daniel, owner of Bharti Enterprises,
New Delhi, India:
Self-Help Stuff That Works is simply superb.
Dan Murphy, Afternoon Host, KIXI-AM Radio:
Self-Help Stuff That Works really does
work. It's clean, concise, genuinely usable information, without
any of the psycho-babble. Over the years of interviewing authors
for my radio shows, I've had many self-help books cross my desk,
and many of them were written more like textbooks, full of professor-speak.
Self-Help Stuff That Works is a breath of fresh air that
speaks simply and directly in a non-judgemental and truly uplifting
manner. While many books try to offer a magic bullet or some
cosmic epiphany, yours is down-to-earth advice and encouragement
that anyone can relate to.
Mike Elgan, publisher and editor of MikesList, and Adam's brother:
Adam takes an entire body of self-help
literature and boils it down into directly useful advice. He
separates the wheat from the chaff and prints 100% whole wheat.
Adam, thanks for the 360
angle, not just the narrow view. Really good stuff! As the Buddhists
say, 'it has great merit.'
Julie Jarosz, owner of Eco
I love it! Your book helps
me put everything into the proper perspective, and that of course,
brings me up.
Really good book. It helped
my girlfriend and I straighten out our relationship.
Robbie Roberts, editor and
Congratulations on this
great book! It is easy to read and understand. It is also simple
to see how it can be applied in the tasks of daily living. I
would like to mention it as recommended reading in my March newsletter
if that is okay with you.
Ava Formo Ham:
You are my new hero! I
can't believe I'm just now discovering your work.
A friend just sent me the
address to your site. Thank you so much for your wonderful info.
I'm working on my Ph.D. life is just a bit stressful at the
moment, and I appreciate the readings you offer. Thank you.
Will Bowen, Creator of Apple a Day
A practical and interesting guide to gaining
control of your life and reaching your highest potential. The
handbook for the human life.
Robb Dunn, Information Systems Consultant,
Husband, and Father of 2:
Positive interaction with others in my
personal and professional life are crucial to my success. By
applying the material, I have improved the quality of these relationships
through better self-awareness and self-esteem. It is concise,
down-to-earth, and above all, practical information I could apply
immediately. Solid methodology. This really is self-help stuff
Valerie E. Goulds, ONESTEP Support
Engineer, Wall Data Inc.:
I will need to buy two copies so I can
have one at the office. We have so much negative input in this
world these days, I am trying to keep positive things around
me. These are easy reads but deeply meaningful, just the boost
John Dayton, 91 year-old adventurer:
I'm convinced that thoughtful study of
these ideas expressed in Adam's book will be of great help to
any reader who is seriously interested in improving the quality
of his or her life.
Commander Robert L. Sundin, USCG(Ret.):
The chapters are straightforward and positive.
They provide an insight into the positive thinking and 'take
charge of yourself' attitude that Adam shares with his readers.
Bob Alford, Manager of Technical
Got it, read it and it works! Peppered
with usable insights and suggestions...a painless, practical,
proven investment in myself...wish I'd had this "stuff"
I'm getting so much from
your book. It's my Bible! I love the fact that I can pick up
the book at any point and read without having to read it from
front to back. And I love it that you don't talk around the subject,
but get right to it.
Gerre Boardman, Montessori
I have been reading more
of it and enjoying it very much. The short chapters have me reading
one after the other, even when I think I'm going to just read
one...I keep wanting to read the next one. I enjoy the stories
of the people and it comes across in the book that Adam really
has enjoyed reading the stories of the people, too. He just sounds
like someone you know really well sharing his observations and
insights in the most down-to-earth, comfortable way. He really
has a knack for conveying helpful ideas.
A reviewer on Amazon.com:
This book is a very helpful
to the common Joe with not much time but a strong desire for
self-improvement. We all have days where we just want to be uplifted,
yet we don't always have 45 minutes to read a chapter on how
to improve self-esteem and happiness. The most important thing
in self-help is that you have a good mental coach, a good concience
rooting you in the right direction. When you're feeling down,
a good mental coach will tell you how to direct your life. The
length of the chapters is just a nice little meal for your mental
coach to help you learn without having to completely smother
your mind with extra information that isn't very helpful. So
ladies and Gents, buy the book if you want the help without sacrificing
all the time. It really is worth it.
This stuff REALLY DOES
work! Adam has a very cheerful and optimistic outlook which just
has to rub off on you if you spend any time at all with this
book. The chapters are short so you don't get bogged down in
a long boring saga of things that may not apply to you, and they
can be read in any order. The reader actually has control over
what part of life's many struggles he or she can seek help with.
If you buy a self help book for yourself or as a gift, you can't
go wrong with this one.
A reader from Heathfield,
East Sussex United Kingdom:
It works every time. This
is a book that does what it says, time after time. I have had
this book for a couple of years now. It is one of the few self
help books I will return to again and again for inspiration.
The author does a great
job of getting essential ideas across in a meaningful and memorable
way. The chapters are short and pithy, and that is why it works
so well. There are a few references to other classic books and
research, but no detialed bibliography, which is a drawback.
Nevertheless, this is a great book. Presentation and layout are
good, with key ideas summarised in bold and telling quotes given
at the end of most chapters. You will feel the difference immediately.
Worth every £ or $ spent.
A reader from Prospect Park,
This book is indeed some
of the best self-help advice between two covers, and is written
in a clear, entertaining style. It does not need to be read in
any particular order, and is full of interesting facts, quotes,
and stories. Of course, the book has useful ideas and is perfect
reading for those last few mintues before turning off the light
This book is no-bull.
A reader from New York, NY
Outstanding! This may very
well be the best self-help book ever written. It is easy to read
and easier to digest.
Danielle, a student in Washington,
I'm not sure about you,
but I have a bad day at least twice a week. You know them. Those
days where you want to punch the first person who doesn't agree
with you on everything. Well, if you actually punch that person,
you're not going to end up with a good result! Duh! That's where
this book comes in helpful. I don't want to sit down for 6 hours
reading about finding inner peace with my problems, and analyzing
my childhood! Adam Khan has done something absolutely brillaint...
he has consolidated everything in the self-help world you need
to know, and made it into chapters that you can understand. Believe
me, he knows what he is talking about. I should know, I'm his
14 year-old niece, and I'm proud of my uncle, the self-help author.
I'm not saying this because I have to, I'm saying this because
it's the truth. His book has helped a lot of people. He has shared
with me some of the many emails from people all over the world
about how this book has helped them. So if you're reading this,
considering buying the book, do it. It's worth every penny. I've
said it before, and I'll say it again. Adam
Khan is a genius. He put together all the useful stuff about
self-help into one easy to read book. Buy the book. Its Great!
Andrew Brown, superviser of a large manufacturing
plant in Hamburg, Germany:
This book is 100% concentrated, fast acting,
practical advice. There are so many 'self help' books available
today, all of them offering you the answers to life's challenges,
that you almost need a self help guide just to choose which one
is the right one for you! You could be forgiven for regarding
'Self Help Stuff that Works' by Adam Khan as just another book
to be added to the list. But wait a second!! This book is different,
very different. Adam Khan has successfully made a distillation
of all of the best self help theories, wisdom and ideas, and
the final concentrate is a book that has the most practical,
funny, easy and enjoyable-to-read advice that you will find today!
The author has a natural gift for writing
in a style that is very much as if he is talking directly to
you. That, coupled with his ability to take ideas, extract the
good bits and make sound practical advice out of it that is easier
to apply, make it 'pound for pound' the best book on the shelf!
The book is written in the form of concise
chapters. Each cover an idea often in the form of a short story
that contains wisdom and practical advice on how to approach
problems, handle situations, strengthen relationships, choose
your direction in life, develop inner strength the list
is endless. The chapters are divided into 3 sections entitled
attitude, work, people and the whole concept of producing a book
in this format makes so much sense and allows you to use it as
a constant source of reference. No longer do you have to spend
time sifting through a book to find that 'pearl of wisdom' that
really struck a chord when you read it last time. With this book
you can quickly refer back to ideas and advice. This also helps
you to concentrate on absorbing one or two key ideas over a period
of time so that you can really integrate them into your life
before moving on to the next idea.
As Adam says, 'too often we try to change
too many things at one time'. I can tell you from my own personal
experience that there are ideas and suggestions contained in
this book that you can apply instantly, without any difficulties
that have the power to make considerable and lasting changes
in your life. I did it myself by taking one particular idea from
this book. After applying it, I have changed not only myself
but affected to way people behave towards me in a very positive
and empowering way. That is what's so great and so different
about it. The ideas are so practical and easy to apply but yet
give real tangible results immediately as soon as you start using
them! I cannot rate it highly enough and I would just say, go
and buy this book if you want to make positive, practical changes
in your life!!
Bill Butler, a reader from Tarzana, California,
Wow! I have looked or read through thousands
of books on self-help and psychology in the last thirty years.
And I so much wish that someone had given me this book when I
was eighteen. It is the best book on self-help that I have ever
A relative is giving you trouble, but you
don't want to cause disruption in your family. You are worrying
all night about how you scored on a college exam. A man or woman
rejects your advances. You start a project and you feel that
it may never may be completed. This is a first aid book. But
also a 'prevention' book. In other words, it's a survival book.
Don't look elsewhere for this kind of help.
It's really designed in a 'Marine Core'
fashion for emotional, social, and monetary survival. In a way
that will not only help you help yourself, but also to help others.
It all comes together in this manual. Equally excellent for all
ages, all races, and both sexes.
The author gets to problems and situations
quickly and without any jargon. I believe this to be the best
self-help book in 50 years. It has showed me how to release anger
in 90 seconds (seriously). How to deal in relationships (no
it is not easy). Probably the best book you could have if you
want to keep your marriage intact. The best book that you could
have if everything around you looks totally 'black'. The best
book you could have when confronting a brand new situation that
you know nothing about. I can't describe it. Don't read it. Study
it. And this will be your best insurance policy for your health,
your psychological well-being, and your pocket book.
A reader wrote to us from England:
I had to go through an English bookseller
due to the fact that I can't buy things online using the computer
at work. However, I got your book about six weeks ago.
I started by reading it the whole way through,
and then by going back to chapters that had really caught my
attention. I can honestly say that I really like the format.
It really helps you when you want to look back at something that
you've read without having to spend ages finding it. The chapters
are 'bite sized' and the fact that many of the 'messages' and
advice are in the form of a story makes them memorable. I'm glad
that you 'stuck to your guns' and kept the format in the face
of pressure from the conventionalists.
Three of the chapters have had an immediate
effect upon me and I see already a change in myself. The first
one is 'refuse to flinch'. When I read this I immediately recognised
this in myself and realised the effect it has on many aspects
of my life. I have since been consciously 'not flinching' and
it has given me a huge boost in self-confidence and produced
feelings that I can only describe as greater emotional strength.
I must confess I like not flinching!! Of course it takes time
to get rid of old ingrained habits but I'm getting there.
The story 'just keep planting' has also
struck a chord with me. It reminds me of something someone said
to me about the effect of goal setting and 'knowing what outcome
you want in your life.' He said to me, "Imagine we agreed
to meet at the movies to see a film together, but you were delayed
so I went in alone and caught the last few minutes of the previous
showing of the film that we were going to see." When we
did get to see the film together, the way I would see the film
would be different from the way he would see it.
The reason is that I would be less affected
or fooled by any twists and turns in the plot of the story than
he would because I already know the final ending. So it is in
life, he said. If you know clearly what you want, you will not
be so affected by setbacks and problems because you effectively
already know what the final outcome will be.
The third chapter is 'Optimism.' I liked
it when I read it and it's one of many of the chapters I felt
I could 'run with it' and get immediate results, and that is
what I have done. I work for a company that was recently bought
by another (nothing new these days). As you can imagine there
is a lot of doom and gloom around and a general feeling of uncertainty.
However, I've looked at the situation and found many reasons
for me personally to be optimistic. I must confess it's harder
at first to be optimistic, it certainly in the past has not been
my natural reaction. However, I'm learning to be more optimistic
and it's becoming more of a natural reaction for me.
Regarding my quest to find exactly what
I want to do with myself, well I must say that I did the exercise
a couple of times now and what it revealed was that I should
put spend more time with friends and hobbies. But, interestingly,
it has revealed areas of my work I would like to work more with.
I am a metallurgical engineer by profession but I work very much
with sales and marketing to the metals industry. I have had occasion
to get involved in failure investigations and I have now decided
that I will look to pursue my 'formal career' in this kind of
area. It's also an area in which I could eventually work for
myself, which also appeals to me.
However, what I think for me this whole
soul searching period is about, is finding a creative outlet
and making my mark so to speak. I now think I am starting to
see what it is and how I am going to do it. I will not say too
much yet other than to say that it involves writing. I've always
felt that I would like to write but as yet I haven't done anything
about it. Now I am!
I think your book is excellent and you
should be very proud of yourself. It's very easy to read with
lots of practical advice and I feel that its value will prove
to be long-lasting.
Suyono in East Java:
I downloaded some of the
materials on your web site about self-help and I find it very
interesting and helpful. I forward the material to my friends
and they have the same opinion. I try to apply them in my daily
life. Again I thank you for your great work.
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