to like yourself more
IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO LIKE yourself much when
youre doing something you think is wrong. It doesnt
matter how much rationalization you do, or how thickly you try
to cover it with justification, if you think its wrong
or bad, and you keep doing it, you cannot like yourself. So the
way to like yourself more is to clean up your integrity. You
may not like to hear that, and I dont blame you. It sounds
like a horrible burden. But its not. It lightens your load
and makes it more fun to be alive. Here are three steps to a
self you like and respect.
Make a list of what youre doing
that you think is wrong and stop doing those things. You might keep backsliding for awhile, but if
you keep at it, youll make it. Also make a list of things
you should be doing and arent. Never mind what others think
you should or shouldnt do or what youve been told
is right or wrong. Just pay attention to what you feel
is right or wrong. And make sure you write it out. This,
by itself, will give you some relief, because we are never as
bad as we think we are. When you write it out, youll see
that. The list will be finite. Work on one thing at a time. Then
cross it off your list.
Make amends for anything youve
done in the past that you feel guilty about. Some situations only need an apology, or just
an admission that you did it. Other situations will require you
to take some action to make up for the damage you did.
Before you get started on this, you should know that its
never as bad as you think it will be. Its easier to make
amends than it first may seem. Be creative. Make it fun. You
may come up with a wild idea, but if it seems right to you, try
Forgive yourself for all the bad
things youve done. This should
be fairly easy since youve already taken responsibility
for your past and present action. But to finish the job, you
need to forgive yourself. To forgive yourself simply means to
give up resentment against yourself, or give up the desire to
punish yourself. Since you have taken and are taking responsibility
for your actions, to continue to punish yourself or resent yourself
is just silly. You are human. Humans make mistakes. Youve
recognized that and corrected your mistakes. Thats something
to feel good about. So forgive yourself. A decision is all thats
required. Simply decide to stop resenting yourself and give up
any intentions of punishing yourself
TAKE THESE THREE steps to a self you really
like. Youll gain strength and confidence and the peace
that comes from knowing you do whats right.
Fortify your integrity.
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