SOME PEOPLE ARE EMOTIONALLY stronger than
others. They can take a lot of stress and strain without falling
apart, while others collapse into a whimpering heap at the smallest
The main difference between an emotionally
weak person and an emotionally strong person is what they
think when things go wrong. When troubles come along, the
weak one is in the habit of thinking: This is more than
I can stand. A tough one thinks: I can handle this.
It doesnt matter what specific words
a person puts to the two different kinds of thinking. But the
thoughts that make people weak are feeble and impotent: I
cant take it, its too overwhelming, its too
much to bear, I cant stand it, Im not up to this,
Im not emotionally ready for this, etc.
The thoughts that make you strong are capable
and resolute: I can take it, everything is going to work
out, Ill get through it, maybe theres a lesson in
it for me, adversity builds character, Im tough, people
have been through worse, if I try I can find an advantage in
all this, when this is over Ill be wiser, etc.
To become stronger, change your thoughts.
Its as simple and uncomplicated as that. Theres nothing
to it but to do it. Start saying something different to yourself
during tough times. When you feel stress, coach yourself, Come
on, [your name here], you can handle this. When this is over,
you might even be a stronger person because of it. Think
strong thoughts and you will be tougher, braver, and more resilient.
Just like that.
The stronger thoughts are truer
than the weak thoughts. You can take it. Human beings,
including you, can withstand a tremendous amount of strain without
cracking, as any cursory perusal of war stories, survival accounts,
and reports of disasters demonstrate.
These kinds of thoughts wont be habitual
at first, of course. The way you think is as much a habit as
the way you tie your shoes. But keep deliberately thinking stronger,
and after awhile it will become habitual. Eventually, youll
wonder how you ever thought differently.
Would you like to be stronger? Would you
like to have more emotional calm during the stressful times?
Would you like to stand as a pillar of strength when those about
you are crumbling? Sure you would. This is the way. Change your
thoughts. Make them stronger. Dont think you can do it?
Thats the first thought to change.
Think thoughts that give you
and make you tough.